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What do I do if the mentoring relationship isn't working?

If you find that the mentoring relationship is not working, it's important to address the issue as soon as possible to try to resolve it. Here are some steps you can take:

  • Communicate openly and honestly with your mentor or mentee. Let them know how you feel, and explain the reasons why you believe the relationship is not working.
  • Identify the specific issues that are causing problems. Are the goals or expectations not being met? Is there a lack of communication or understanding? Is there a lack of trust or respect?
  • Brainstorm possible solutions. Are there adjustments that can be made to the mentoring relationship to make it more productive, such as changing the meeting schedule, communication methods or goals?
  • Evaluate the possibility of ending the mentoring relationship. If the issues cannot be resolved and the mentoring relationship is causing more harm than good, it may be necessary to terminate the relationship. It's important to do this in a professional and respectful manner.

It's important to remember that not all mentoring relationships will be successful, and that's okay. What's important is that both parties are honest and open about their experiences and willing to work towards finding a solution. Don't hesitate to raise an issue when you feel something is not working, and don't be afraid of ending a mentoring relationship if it's not beneficial for both parties.